By Rhiannon Waits
Do Not Mistake My Kindness for Weakness!
many months go by without the telephone ringing and a familiar
voice saying, “Yahete, Beautiful Creature!” I will pull out my Rolodex and place
a call to Chief Sonne Reyna. “Chiefy” as I call
him, lives in
Yet, to all who know him, he is a gentle heart who makes you smile. The chief has a real zest for life … and that is stating it mildly. He could be anywhere or have any or no title, and the lessons he taught would be the same.
and I met in
We had traveled in the New Age Circle for quite sometime, and chatted on the phone, but it wasn't until the show in Charlotte that we actually got meet each other in person.
When we were introduced the first time, we became friends and stayed in contact from that point on. I think we all met and
became friends with many who had beliefs systems different than ours. Even though we could not believe as some of our new friends did, generally we still respected their right to believe as they wished. I believe that is one of the most beautiful things about most New Age People.
The one thing most of us had in common was the desire to better the world. (Note my deliberate use of the terms ‘most of us’ and ‘generally’ in this paragraph.)
While we were both appearing in
Chief Sonne had sat silently through one such show of petulance from one of our fellow speakers and watched me speak and
interact on different levels trying to be polite. It had been spurred on by a particular earlier event that had left me feeling hurt and insulted. Sonne came up to me and said, “Rhia, precious goddess, do not allow others to treat you badly in exchange for your kindness.
Turn to these people and say, ‘Do not mistake my kindness for weakness. Don’t you dare!’ Find strength in your kindness, and accept your self-respect and your ability to show it graciously.” The realization of what his words meant left me speechless.
Such a simple concept yet it had never dawned on me before. People do mistake others’ kindness for weakness all the time! Why hadn’t I seen this before? His words at that moment sunk into my very core. I have always been the type who let others run over me until they reach a certain point. By me being mellow and giving, many have mistaken my kindness as a weakness and would disrespect me.
I must admit, at those times, I had not treasured my ability to show kindness in the face of adversity. I had not accepted my gift with grace but instead as a weakness and with shame. The dawning of this little Lesson on Love and Life was one of awe.
At that moment, I decided I would start to change how I handled my life. I would make sure that people who would use my kindness and disrespect me with words would learn the lessons that the Chief had shared with me. I would speak his words with strength and in such a way that they demanded attention yet still reflected kindness. I held on to them as if these words were worth more than all the gold in the world … and with just cause. They were, and still are, more valuable than I can put a price on. They helped me see how much strength there can be in kindness and how much pride there is in strength. We can all be strong and kind at the same time, where kindness is not an act of humility or surrender.
As the days grow in number since Chief Sonne and I first met, we have had many discussions on how to better serve the people of the world. Sonne is quite talented, giving to the world not only in speech but also in song, dance and art. He travels from country to country sharing his “Wiping away of the Tears” ceremonies and many other healing ceremonies his tribe holds sacred. When it comes to sharing his lesson to me, who gave him permission to share the ways or his birth rites are inconsequential. It is one not for me to judge, but to feel good for the gifts he has imparted and the good he has sown. I am just thankful that he reached out to teach those around him lessons that were once shared with him. As I stated before, we all have different beliefs in many areas, yet there are times the Chief and I are on the same page.
This beautiful lesson he shared with me about the gift of being able to know the difference between kindness and weakness, I now share with you. I hope you carry it with you proudly and with the grace I was taught. Share with all who will listen and do not waste time sharing with those who are not ready to hear. Sonne Reyna shared the lesson he taught to me at a point in my life when it was much needed.
This lesson he taught is gold, and one that will forever be thought of when you hear his name. If we teach but one lesson to the world, we have dropped a pebble into the lake of humanity to create ripples throughout many souls. I share these quotes from other knowledgeable people, whose wisdom is also worth repeating. “It is a good idea to be ambitious, to have goals, to want to be good at what you do, but it is a terrible mistake to let drive and ambition get in the way of treating people with kindness and decency. The point is not that they will then be nice to you. It is that you will feel better about yourself.” Your kindness will no longer be a weakness and hopefully then , your words will be increase in stranght.
— Robert Solow, Ettiene De Grellet
“This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”
— Dalai Lama
“Today we are afraid of simple words like goodness and mercy and kindness. We don’t believe in the good old words because we don’t believe in good old values anymore. And that’s why the world is sick.”
— Lin Yutang
“Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolutions.”
— Kahlil Gibran (1883 - 1931)
Rhiannon Waits is a successful
and sought after Spiritual and Motivational Speaker. A syndicated Columnist,
Rhiannon's column "Rhia's Corner" has become a huge hit in and out of the New
Age Arena. Her Book, "Little Lessons on Love and Life" premiered in
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