Man-Woman is the
Best Game in Town
Anytime a man and a woman are together, the potential for magic
or mayhem exists. Our world has yet to accept the very special gift
we’ve been given in being so different. We have not learned to
utilize the awesome power available to us in the man-woman dynamic.
There are many games to play in this world, but nothing can bring
more joy than the man-woman game. There is no finer playing field
than relating with the opposite sex to experience all aspects of
love and life.
In order to effectively relate to one another, we must understand
and appreciate, the underlying makeup of men and women. Women bring
the appetite and desire to the planet. Men bring their capability to
produce. In order to move efficiently around the game board of
man-woman, we need to recognize women are better than men in the
area of desire, and men are more effective than women in producing
to satiate those desires.
We were not created different by accident. The plan has always
been perfect, but we have resisted the perfection of our
differences. This resistance has been the source of the majority of
man-woman breakdowns.
Women are best at what they want. Men are best at making it
happen. Women are the ones who wanted indoor plumbing. Women are the
ones who wanted beds up off the floor. They wanted a roof over their
head. They wanted more blankets and food for their children. Women
are the ones who wanted transportation and markets to do their
shopping. They wanted materials to make different clothes; ones for
winter and ones for summer. Women have always wanted their basic
needs of food, shelter and clothing met. Women wanted, and men
provided. Life was simple. It’s not to say that women didn’t make
things happen along the way. The truth is, women made everything
happen simply by expressing their desires. They wanted more
pleasurable experiences.
Times have changed, and the women of today need to allow men to
be men, and empower them to do more of what they do best. Men want
women to know they are completely capable of producing whatever
women want and need, as long as they are given the opportunity.
Over the past several decades, women have taken on more of the
male role of producing. If this continues, we will end up with too
much male energy on the planet. The planet doesn’t need more male
energy - it needs more feminine energy.
Women are coming into their power in new and wonderful ways. It’s
time for them to pull back from producing so much, and move more
into directing. This will allow men to support women in moving
things in the direction of the feminine. This will bring balance
back to a world where the feminine energy is wanted and needed.
Romance goes out the window when women take on a man’s role. In
the times when chivalry was alive and well, women were definitely
more feminine. They were happy to be female. They played their part
with grace and ease. Men were heroic and romantic. They were happy
to court women and women were delighted to be courted. Can you
imagine if women were galloping off to slay dragons for their men?
When women do the man’s job, it leaves little room for men to be
their heroes. There is no game to play, or dragon to slay. It
results in no romance.
Mark lived in Texas with Allison. Allison had a vacation magazine
that had a beautiful picture of an island with gorgeous turquoise
waters. She lit up every time she looked at it. One day Mark said to
her, “Would you like to go there?” She said, “Yes, that would be
like a dream.” That was all she said. The next day Mark bought
tickets for them to go. She was simply enjoying the picture and
thinking about how much fun it would be to go there. She was not
trying to manipulate him in any way. This is different than a woman
who asks, “Would you take me there?” or, “Why can’t we go?” There’s
no opportunity for men to be the hero if women get their own
‘production’ muscle involved.
When a woman expresses her desires, she is giving her man a clear
message how to win with her. He must pay close attention to what she
says she wants. If he doesn’t take her clues he will be penalized at
some point. Women can’t stand it when men don’t listen to them,
especially, when they feel it’s important. By the way, everything a
woman says is important. It would behoove a man to remember that
women only want things that will make them happy. If a man’s primary
goal is to make his woman happy, it will cost him big time if he
misses what she wants by not listening to her.
If a man doesn’t listen to the direction a woman suggests, she
feels totally discounted. Nothing is worse for a woman. A man
immediately goes to the doghouse for this. A woman will decide he is
not fun to play with, and the relationship will potentially go down
hill from there. Not following a woman’s lead can be detrimental to
the health and vitality of a relationship. When a woman’s desires
are paid attention to her light will shine and her love will easily
flow toward her man.
Some women keep the majority of their desires from their man.
Women don’t realize that the more they want, the better it is for
men. If a woman is nice, in addition to having a big appetite,
that’s even better. Men want to produce big. They are not afraid of
women who have big appetites and big dreams. They actually find it
attractive. A woman with big dreams means the man has the
opportunity to be a big hero.
Men will never have a chance to be a hero by second guessing
women. This will never work. It always bothers women. Women know men
think we aren’t as smart as they are about certain subjects. But
women are clear about things that are truly important to them, and
would like men to take them for their word. They usually give men an
‘X’, when men judge women for not being clear about what they are
saying. It makes women feel frustrated. They will quickly lose
interest in furthering the conversation.
An example of second-guessing would be where a woman might say,
“I want those little purple pens for my invitations.” He says, “What
do you want those for? Those aren’t the right color to get. They
won’t work either. You need to get this kind and this color.” Men
should know that women say what they mean, and mean what they say,
even if a man thinks it doesn’t make sense.
Women have been put down by men for much of their life and,
unfortunately, don’t stop to handle the criticism in the moment.
However, they will get their revenge by holding out the fun in some
way. They simply refuse to enjoy themselves. If men would simply
adopt a woman’s goals without questioning them, they would
experience a much happier woman, much more of the time.
It’s a huge burden for women to always have to know what they
want. It’s a lot of pressure to have this responsibility. Some women
have not exercised the ‘knowing what they want’ muscle. They don’t
always know what they want in the next moment.
Part of a man’s job is to help her discover her desires. Women
love it when men ‘run menus’ for them. Running a menu is the same as
offering a list of options for her to consider. It’s like window
shopping or going through a catalog. Sometimes women just need the
spark of new ideas to inspire them. When men run menus, women can be
more at the effect of their circumstances, which is something women
love. It allows men to do the thing they love, which is to be at
cause of the situation. Everybody wins this way.
When a man gives a woman a list of options, all he has to do is
watch her face, and then pursue the thing that makes her face light
up the most. If her face lights up, she has connected with something
she feels would be fun. If a man is on the phone with her, he needs
to be listening intently for any positive feedback. A man’s best bet
is to start in the direction that feels best to him. If a woman
changes her mind along the way, it’s best to change with her and
follow her lead. It won’t cost him, and he’ll be rewarded for being
willing to go with her flow. That’s always the perfect solution.
There are many books to read that claim to show you how to have
fulfilling man-woman relationships. I honestly haven’t found any
that comes close to the simple truths found in this book. If you are
going to relate with the opposite sex, and your goal is to have fun,
it is a must to honor and embrace the powerful distinctions that
exist in our differences. The most important distinction being that
women are the appetite and men are the producers. Learning this
piece alone will insure that your travels in the world of man-woman
will lead to a lot more fun and a lot less frustration. It’s the
best way to travel in life, period. It produces the most fun, the
most clarity, and it makes the most sense.
Become more of an observer of your relationships and your life,
and you will quickly see how simple relating with the opposite sex
can be. When you come up against challenges, simply observe where
you may be responsible, acknowledge it, and move on. Nobody ever has
to be wrong! It’s a much cleaner way to play man-woman.
Take a look around you and you will see the result of a woman’s
appetite. All the houses, cars, clothes, restaurants, and shopping
centers were brought into existence by a woman’s desire. Women want,
and men produce. You don’t see too many women building cars, or
roads, or houses and shopping centers. Women want experiences they
are pleasured by. They wanted prettier cars, smoother roads, bigger
shopping centers, and finer dining. And men, bless their wonderful
hearts, brains and muscles, produced it all. Men are amazing
creatures who love to produce. Women love to want - it’s a perfect
dynamic in a perfect world.
Men long to produce for feminine, happy and receptive women. It’s
important for women to remember that men would love the opportunity
to be their hero. Women have to give them the chance. Women have to
become more receptive to convey their softer, more feminine side.
They can get what they want without getting the ol’ crowbar out. The
more women allow themselves to be happy, open, feminine females, the
more men will be inspired to listen to them, love them, and adore
them. Men can only adore women who are adorable. The question, is
have you been adorable lately?
Adopting this model of man-woman allows both sexes to be fully
expressed and honored. This model is simple. It’s clean, fun, fast
and honors everyone. It allows men to be manly - the kind of men
that women are always saying they want. And it allows women to be
vulnerable, soft, feminine, and still powerful - the kind of women
that men say they want.
Try this model out. You will see instant results - guaranteed.
It’s so simple, and it really is this easy! Give up the effort and
struggle of playing man-woman any other way. If you choose to play
with the other half of the planet, you’d be wiser and happier when
you play from your blanket of power - blue blanket or pink blanket?
